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Are You Like an Onion?


How are you getting on the 21 day No Moaning Challenge? Have you tried it and found that you need to start and restart it many times over, or did you start with good intentions only to give up when it became too hard? Did you find it all too hard to start at all, did you get bored and forget, or did you start and find yourself flying through to the finish line?

Whatever your stage, know that the rewards of positive thinking are vastly increased happiness, better health and a much greater ability to enjoy life and choose your future.

The idea is to spend 21 days without moaning, gossiping, bitching or whingeing. When you find yourself being negative either about yourself or someone else, you simply start again. Be patient – it takes an average of six to eight months to complete. Never judge yourself. Mistakes are amazing tools of learning and we need them in order to change. And embrace feeling like an onion – just as you find a way of not moaning, you discover another negative habit. You remove that one and, hey presto, there’s another one lying underneath!

The Challenge teaches us that our minds are a tool and not who we are. As we learn to observe the way our minds work, we become conscious of negativity. Only then can we choose to deal with it.

We have two major states of mind. The state of ego pushes us towards moaning, gossiping and putting others down in the mistaken illusion that we will feel better. But each time we blame someone else, we give our power away to them, allowing them to determine whether or not we are happy and this turns us into a victim.

The state of spirit, however, enables us to choose self-responsibility. Here we retain our power and step out of the cycle of victimhood. Only then can we make our own choices and determine our own happiness. No longer do we want to moan, whinge or gossip. Instead we are full of compassion for ourselves and others. We know how hard it can be and we want everyone to succeed in finding happiness.

There are many tools to help us achieve this state of mind – meditation, listening to music, dancing, spending positive times with friends, walking in nature, looking at beautiful things etc. Just choose what works for you and do lots of it! Our minds need feeding with beauty just as much and as often as our bodies need nourishing with good food.

So wherever you are with the No Moaning Challenge, take heart and carry on. Know that with each layer you peel away, you will feel lighterhappier and more in control.


Love Laurelle x

I am a sound healer, writer and vocal coach and also run monthly meditation classes. For more details, look on my website:, phone me on 07964 161527 or email me on

Are you willing to take the 21 day No Moaning Challenge?


How much time do you spend thinking negatively? Do you sit in judgement of other people? Are you grumpy when there is really no need? Would you like to have peace of mind?

Thankfully, most of us are free to choose how we think in our society. We are not in the middle of a war nor are we on the bread line. We have a house to sleep in and our survival is not constantly being challenged. This puts us in the top economic 8% of the world. Yes, we are officially living in the most privileged time that humans have seen on earth!

So why are so many of us, including our children, suffering from depression? Unfortunately, negative thinking patterns have become the norm. The news is full of doom and gloom because that is what sells. We love drama whether it’s our own or someone else’s because it makes us feel important in this celebrity culture of ours. We spend hours gossiping about what other people are or are not doing because we think it will make us feel better if someone else is having a harder time than we are.

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be like this. Changing your attitude changes your life. Try the 21 day No Moaning Challenge. It takes 21 days to form a new habit so, once you’ve done your 21 days of positive thinking, you will think more positively in the future.

What are the rules? No moaning, no whinging, no gossiping, no bitching. If you need a reminder, you can put a bracelet on one wrist to remind yourself. If and when you catch yourself thinking negatively, swap it onto the other wrist and start all over again.

On average, it takes six to eight months for people to fulfill the 21 day challenge because of the need to start and restart many times over, but it is worth it. There are so many benefits to this learning. Observation, for example – the challenge won’t stop you from not liking something but you won’t have to go into an entire thought attack about it. Then there’s enhanced self-awareness; you’ll learn more about your trigger points and what is likely to upset you. You’ll drop grudges and any desire for revenge as you learn how to let go and this will free up energy. It will also lift you out of the past and future and bring you into the present. Oh, and you may even lose weight. Not only will you no longer need to comfort eat, but letting go of negativity will actually make you feel lighter and, hey presto, your body will respond accordingly!

It’s a win-win challenge, however long it takes you, and such a relief! So, go ahead and spring clean your mind with positive thinking. Allow yourself to be happy and smile as others grow happier around you, too.


With love, Laurelle

I am a Sound Therapist and Vocal Coach working to help you feel and sound healthy and well on all levels. For more information on how I can help you, go to